Here`s how it finally resolved (this post is by Alex, the OP):
Per earlier posts we pretty much came down to this when I last posted:
#MFR airspace actually has officially a 4.1 nm radius.
#The iFly sectional is/was accurately reporting the perimeter in flight at 4.1nm.
#Controllers at the tower were operating under a mistaken impression that the radius was 5nm. Resulting in minor, but annoying, misunderstandings of when aircraft were incurring on the airspace, etc.
I emailed the FAA office that accepts reports of discrepancies on sectionals:
Telephone.......(800) 626-3677 toll free, U.S. only
Telephone.......(301) 344-6341 local, MD, VA, DC
E-mail...............9-AMC-Aerochart@faa.gov
(IIRR Tinker in this group may have provided that contact info) and reported it along the lines of of something ``It appears to me either there's a discrepancy on the radius of MFR airspace on your sectional ( or ATC at MFR has a misunderstanding. I read it as 4.1nm on your chart, 5nm per ATC. If I`m reading that wrong let me know. If it's an error on your chart please not accordingly. If not perhaps you could advise ATC at MFR.``
Got a prompt email and telephone and courteous response from Rich Fecht there.
To make a short story shorter he then contacted the tower manager and got it straighted out with as far as I could tell with no drama..... controllers are being advised to correct the misunderstanding.
This I bet is actually a relief for them because in at least one of my conversations one reported some frustration with how close to incurring or even incurring some pilots appeared to him to be skirting their airspace without making contact. And a relief to me as it was a bit disconcerting to be told I was 3/4th inside their airspace when iFly was telling me I had cleared it.
As I said elsewhere.... remaining question is along the lines of ``how rare or common are such misreadings of perimeters at the towers.`` if I had to guess I`d say not common, and less so at class C, B, and A.
Prudent practice still IMO is cut the perimeter a bit of slack if I don't want to deal with their airspace.
Thanks to all who contributed, particularly Jim and Tinker for persisting.
Alex